Before we get into it, I want to let you know that this is a detailed guide on the latest long-distance vibrator I tried out, the Vibease. I have a lot to share from my experience, and I want you to know all the pros and cons of this particular sex toy so you can see if it’s right for you!
If you want the short Vibease review so you can decide right away if it’s good for you, here are the specifics: The Vibease is an external vibrator that you “wear” by slipping into your underwear. It can be controlled by pushing buttons on the vibrator, or you can control it by the app. The app is what makes it perfect for long-distance relationships, as your man can take control from wherever he is in the world. All you have to do is connect your vibrator to your phone (via Bluetooth) and then connect to your guy’s phone. Very simple. There are some slight issues with the usability of the app, and I prefer vibrators that provide external and internal simulation, but I think the Vibease is a good start if you’re introducing long-distance sex toys into your relationship for the first time.
OK, that’s the short version. For those of you who want to get into the nitty-gritty of how it works and my experience with it, I have LOADS more to tell you.
Sex in Long-distance Relationships
So, let’s talk about sex, ladies.
In a long-distance relationship, lack of physical sex is often the thing that becomes most frustrating the fastest. Yes, of course, you miss all the little things, too—like just being able to see your man whenever you want! But physical intimacy is a big one.
I remember when I first started dating my husband and we were doing long distance, I made a resolution that I wasn’t going to let our sex life get boring. I was down to try everything: sexting, Skype sex, sexy videos, sexy recordings. You name it, I was willing to do it. The thing is after a while, all of those things got a little boring.
So I did a little googling the normal stuff, “How to make long-distance sex exciting?” and I found long-distance sex toys. I had obviously always known about vibrators, but I had no idea the kind of technology that had been invented for long-distance sex. It’s called Teledildonics, and it’s a whole new technology that focuses on Internet-controlled vibrators. Because the Internet is everywhere, it means these toys can be used anywhere and can be controlled by anyone. Pretty great for long-distance vibrators, right?
Now, my man and I are no longer in a long-distance relationship, but I love to follow along with the sex-toy technology. First, because I want to help other women who are still in LDRs, and second, because, well, who doesn’t love a good vibrator? So when Vibease offered to send me their remote-control vibrator, I was all over it. It’s a hard job being the girl who has to test sex toys, but I’m willing to do it for you.
The Vibease is the first wearable smart vibrator. That “smart” is used in the same way it’s used for a smartphone: This vibrator is controlled by the Internet, and all your man needs to do to control it is download an app. And by wearable, I mean that you can slip it into your panties and have some hands-free fun all day long.
I’m going to tell you about my experience using the vibrator to see if you should buy Vibease. (Spoiler alert: You probably should.)
The Vibease Vibrator
So, let’s talk about aesthetics. I personally believe that your sex toys should be pretty. If they’re bulky or oddly shaped or made out of an unattractive material, they’re distracting. It will hardly bring up sexy thoughts of your man if you’re looking at a vibrator that looks like a kitchen appliance instead of a bedroom must-have.
Luckily, the Vibease vibrator is really pretty. Small, pink or purple, and curved, it slips right into your panties, putting pressure (and vibrations!) on your clit. It’s made of a very soft silicone that almost mimics the feel of skin, and it feels heavenly. The material is another big thing for me when it comes to vibrators. I want them to feel amazing, obviously, and a vibrator that has seams or is made from rough material ends up being more of an irritant than a stimulant. It’s very sensitive down there, and you want to make sure that you’re only using toys that respect that. Earlier editions of the Vibease were not seamless, but after listening to customer feedback, the newer one is! The one I tried was seamless; it would have lost major points if it wasn’t.
I think the most important part of the Vibease is that it’s very, very quiet, but it is not silent as they advertise. I think most of us look for vibrators that are as quiet as possible because no one but you (and, in this case, your man) should know that you’re using it. As the Vibease is designed to be wearable, which means that you can wear it outside, it’s vital that the vibrations don’t sound like a construction site. You want to be able to have a some naughty, secret fun at work; you don’t want your boss asking where that vibrating noise is coming from. It is advertised as being completely silent, but that’s impossible for a vibrator. If it were silent, the vibrations wouldn’t be strong enough to do anything, so it does make a tiny bit of noise, but I think it’s mostly imperceptible. If you’re using it at home and have roommates, the normal bustle of the house or even some low music should mask the noise. The same is true for using it outside the house, but your nerves might make you hyper-aware of the small vibrating noise.
Finally, there is one other unique aspect of the Vibease: the fantasy stories. Submitted by other Vibease users, there’s a huge marketplace of erotic stories that you can listen to while using your Vibease. The Internet-controlled vibrator syncs up with the audio so that your climax happens just as the climax in the story happens.
How Does It Work?
The Vibease is simple to use, which is good because you want as little distractions as possible when using a vibrator. There are two buttons: The first turns it on and off, and the second allows you choose between five vibration modes. The main advantage of the Vibease is that it’s wearable, so you probably won’t want to use the buttons on the vibrator to control it. Instead, you can control it by the app, or, more specifically, get your man to control it.
I’ll go into more detail on how the app works in a second, but first, let’s talk about some of the technical details (what every girl wants to hear when talking about sex toys!). The Vibease is compatible with iPhones and Android phones, and you and your partner do not have to have the same type of phone to connect to each other. As long as you and your man have Internet, he can connect to your phone and then control your vibrator through your phone. Honestly, I think Internet-controlled vibrators are the best thing to happen for couples in a long-distance relationship.
You might have used vibrators before that you had to hold. This one is special as you can insert it into your panties, and it stays pretty snug. However, I will say that if you plan to walk around with it, it can move out of place. You also have to wear pretty tight underwear to keep it where you want it. Although it fit for me, I know that vibrators are not one-size-fits-all, and the shape and size might not work for some women. Because of the shape, it also presses up against your clit, so you’re getting external simulation, which leads to a pretty powerful experience.
The Vibease Chat App
The Vibease Chat app is free, and you can download it for your Android or iPhone. Once you download it, you’ll create a profile, which includes picking your nickname, profile photo and gender. You can choose not to have a photo, but the app will remind you how much your partner would enjoy to see a photo of you—and I don’t think they’re wrong! Also, it’s not like other users can randomly pair up with you, so you don’t have to worry about a stranger seeing you.
There are step-by-step instructions to connect your device, and it’s pretty simple to follow—just make sure your Bluetooth is turned on. You can also choose a request code in your privacy settings. This is important if you want to make your experience on the app very private. This way your partner can find you by searching your nickname and request code, and then you can add him to your list of trusted partners. Once added, he can connect with your Vibease any time.
You can also set the pulsation setting for your Vibease in the app. There are 11 pulses to modify however you like, and you—or your man—can create custom “vibes,” which are stored in the “My Vibes” section of the app. Can you already tell how much fun it is possible to have with the Vibease? It’s not like you have to worry about getting bored by having the same vanilla sex over and over again. Every experience can be something new.
Finally, there are three free audios in the fantasy section: “Fun in the Rain,” “Beach Play,” and “Peaceful and Fun.” I explored them a little bit, but I didn’t think there was anything particularly erotic about them. Although they do connect to your Vibease and control the vibration, the sound of rain doesn’t do anything for me. But if the weather turns you on, you’re going to enjoy these freebies.
My Experience With the Vibease
I used the Vibease two ways: once with my partner and once alone. I’m going to tell you about both experiences because although I do want to focus on long-distance vibrators, I also know the importance of having a little solo fun.
First things first: my experience with using it with my husband. As soon as the Vibease arrived, I washed it, which you should do with all your toys and anything you’re going to use on your body. Then I downloaded the app and connected my new vibrator to it. My husband also downloaded the app and searched for me. Once we were both connected, we were ready to go!
We decided that we wanted to use it while we were separated to get the full long-distance experience from it. Seeing as we live together and neither of us had any solo trips planned, I wore mine to work. Now, this is a little risky, and it depends on the kind of environment you work in. I have my own office, so I didn’t have to worry about awkwardly trying not to orgasm around my co-workers. We didn’t decide on the exact time that we were going to start using it because I thought the surprise element was part of the fun.
I slipped the Vibease on in the morning, and it was so comfortable that I actually forget I was wearing it for a while. Around midday, my husband and I started to exchange some naughty texts. My Vibease was connected to the app, so I knew he could start controlling it whenever he wanted to. This added a lot to the experience, and I’d encourage you to do the same with your man. Once he did start controlling it, the vibrations were just the right intensity to feel good without being overwhelming. Without getting into extreme details, I really enjoyed the experience, and so did my husband. Even though I wasn’t exactly returning the favor for him, he got a lot of pleasure out of knowing he was giving me pleasure—and I think your man will feel similar.
The next time I used it was on my own. My husband left for the evening, and I decided to pair my Vibease up with one of the fantasy stories. First, I tested out the ones that were already on the phone, but they didn’t really do anything for me. I’m not sure what they’re thinking including nature sounds because I don’t know many women who describe that as a turn on. I wanted something a little more erotic, so I went into the Fantasy marketplace right on the app. There was a lot to choose from, and most of them were completely free. (The ones that aren’t free can be bought with “vibe credits,” which are bought within the app.) I downloaded “The First Meeting” and listened to the full 11 minutes and 43 seconds. The fun part of incorporating erotica into your solo play is that you can extend the experience for as long as you want. I’d never listened to erotica before, so I loved having that new experience.
My favorite time was definitely when I paired it up with my husband. There’s something infinitely sexy about having someone else take control.
Should You Buy Vibease?
Here’s my final verdict in my Vibease review: 8/10. I think there is always room for improvement, but this is a pretty great example of all of the things that long-distance vibrators do right. My only issue with it is that the app does not always work as it should, and it can lose connection at inopportune times. This only happened once in the times that I’ve used it, though, so I think they are consistently working on making it better. I would also prefer to have a vibrator that provides external and internal stimulation, but I think that maybe a wearable vibrator is not the best option for that. At only $119 (or 25% off by using the coupon code jennifer), it can add some spice to your long-distance sex life without being an enormous investment. If you want a wearable, Internet-controlled vibrator, then I think the Vibease is one of the best options out there.
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