I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: One of most challenging parts of long-distance relationships is missing physical affection and, well, sex. Luckily, technology has come a long a long way. There are now apps that allow LDR couples to watch movies in sync; messaging apps just for you and your long-distance lover; and, my personal favorite, long-distance sex toys.
The newest remote-control sex toy that is conveniently located in my bedside table drawer is the Esthesia by Vibease. My husband and I are big fans of the original Vibease, so I was eager to try out it out and share my Esthesia review.
I’ll go into more detail, but here are the most important things to know about the Esthesia:
- The Esthesia has a clitoral and G-spot stimulator. With powerful dual stimulators, you get double the pleasure. The powerful vibrations aren’t silent, but they’re quiet enough.
- It’s powered by the same smart technology as the Vibease, which means you can play with your partner from anywhere in the world. The app is a little cumbersome at first, and the technology doesn’t always work right the first time. There are definitely some bugs to be worked out, but the company gets “smarter” every day.
- You can take the Esthesia for a solo ride while listening to an audiobook available in the Fantasy Store.
- It has a sexy silicone body that is safe and easy to clean.
With both Vibease products, it takes a little time to learn how to work with the technology—and there are some slight issues with the usability of the app—but once you understand how it works, the Esthesia is a great introduction to long-distance sex toys. Especially if, like me, you prefer vibrators that provide external and internal stimulation.
If you want a few more details—read on for a detailed description of my erotic experiences with the Esthesia.
Keep the Intimacy Alive
One of the big things long-distance couples have to figure out is how to keep their sex life exciting when they don’t get to see each other as much as they’d like. According to research at the Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships, people in long-distance relationships usually live anywhere from 30 miles to 950 miles apart, with the average couple living 125 miles apart. That means they are typically only seeing each other once every month in a half—if they’re lucky.
In a long-distance relationship, lack of physical sex is often the thing that becomes most frustrating the fastest. I remember when I first started dating my husband long distance, I made a resolution that I wasn’t going to let our sex life get boring. After weeks of sexting, Skype sex, sexy videos and sexy recordings, I started wanting something more.
That’s where Vibease comes in. After the success of the world’s first “smart” vibrator—the Vibease earned double its funding goal in less than 24 hours had been on crowd-funding site Indiegogo—the company launched its sister product: the Esthesia.
Just like the Vibease, the Esthesia can be controlled by pushing buttons on the vibrator, or you can control it by the app. The app is what makes it perfect for long-distance relationships. All you have to do is connect your vibrator to your phone (via Bluetooth) and then connect to your guy’s phone. Now he can get you off where he is in the world.
If you’re looking to add more spice, intimacy and connection to your long-distance relationship— and you crave the internal and external stimulation—the Esthesia is what you’ve been looking for.
Go For the Blended O
The Esthesia is the Vibease on the next level. The soft silicone, flexible body almost feels like skin, and the carefully molded tips massage the clit and the G-spot at the same time, leading to perfectly blended orgasms. A blended orgasm is when you stimulate more than one erogenous zone at the same time. Because you are pleasuring the clitoris and G-spot at the same time, the blended orgasm is a more advanced and harder to achieve.
The easiest way to achieve a blended orgasm is with toys, such as the Esthesia. And as always, the more aroused you are, the easier it will be. Exchange some naughty texts with your long-distance love before you whip out the Esthesia.
With the Esthesia, the classic curved design allows you to alternate pressure between your clit and G-spot. Because it’s made of a very soft silicone, you can move the vibrator around, experimenting with different angles and intensities until you find your rhythm.
As your man controls the app from afar, he might tease you to prolong the pleasure. But trust me, the longer he delays your orgasm, the more intense it will be.
Don’t get me wrong: The C-spot orgasm you get from the Vibease always feels good. But imagine blending the pleasure of the clitoral orgasm with the much more intense pleasure of a G-spot orgasm. By simultaneously massaging both zones, you get a deeper, longer experience. Plus, your blended orgasm might just drive your man over the edge, too, even if he is a thousand miles away.
Another thing I love about the Esthesia is that it’s super quiet. With the wearable Vibease, it was crucial that the vibrations were strong yet quiet. (If you want to be able to have some naughty, secret fun at work, you don’t want your boss asking where that vibrating noise is coming from!) Although the Esthesia isn’t a wearable vibrator, it’s still best when no one but you—and your man—know that you’re using it. The Esthesia is incredibly quiet, even at the highest vibration setting, so if you’re using it at home, some low music should mask the noise of the vibrator. You, on the other hand, might not be able to contain your screams.
Take Cybersex to the Next Level
The Esthesia might not be as simple as cybersex, but once you figure out how it works, you’ll be glad you did.
To use the Esthesia with your man, you both must download the Vibease Chat app. Esthesia works with Android phones and iPhones that support Bluetooth 4.0 (BLE). For connecting the Esthesia vibrator to an iOS devices that support Bluetooth 4.0 (BLE), it only works with iPhone 4S, iPhone 5 and later, and iPod Touch 5th generation and later, iPad 3rd generation and 4th generation, and the iPad Mini. When I tried to connect it to my iPad, the app wasn’t working that well. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work on Android tablets. And if you have a Windows or a Blackberry phone, you’re out of luck. There are definitely some bugs to be worked out, but Vibease gets “smarter” every day.
Once you download the app, you’ll create a profile. Choose a nickname, pick your gender and upload a profile picture. The app will walk you through how to connect the Esthesia to your smartphone or tablet. Don’t forget to make sure your Bluetooth is turned on!
If you are concerned about privacy, you can request a code under your privacy settings. Then when your partner searches for you by your nickname in the app, he’ll have to input your personalized request code to find you. Then you can add him to your list of trusted partners.
With the Esthesia, there are five preset vibration settings. However, don’t have to limit yourself to those five settings. One of my favorite features of the Esthesia is that you—and your man—can create your own custom vibration patterns. I mean, hey, no one knows your body as well as well as you two, right? Plus, if things are getting really hot and steamy, just touch the screen to control the vibrations and build intensity in real time.
Once you and your partner are both connected to the app, as long as both phones are connected to the Internet, distance doesn’t matter (as long as you stay within five feet of your smartphone.) So while I’m working in Santa Barbara, California, and I connect to my Esthesia using Bluetooth, and my husband, who is visiting his family in the Netherlands, can control my vibrator through the Vibease Chat app. We don’t even need to have the same phone models in order for the long-distance features to work.
I recommend setting up a Skype date with your man to walk through pairing your phones with the app and the vibrator. It’s simple to use once you understand how it works, but there is a little learning curve to get everything set up. Plus, once you have everything up and running, you can talk about which vibrations feel best for you. Some vibrations might be too soft, and others too strong. He should know what he’s doing to you from halfway around the globe!
Although you can text within the app, it doesn’t support video communication. Although there is a talk feature in the app, when I tried it, the feature didn’t work. So if you partner wants to hear how good he’s making you feel, you’ll need to use to use other software besides the Vibease Chat app.
Live Out Your Fantasy
Do you wish you were cast as Anastasia Steele in 50 Shades of Grey? Well, with the Esthesia, you can pretend you are and that Christian Grey is in your bedroom.
If you ever want to use the Esthesia alone, it has a cool feature where it vibrates in sync with fantasy stories, so you can turn on a little erotica and let the vibrations do the rest. The experts at Vibease know that women like to fantasize more than visualize when they are trying to experience the Big O. In fact, on average, women have more romantic fantasies than men each month. So audio plays an important role in getting women excited.
Submitted by other Esthesia and Vibease users, the erotic stories are in the Fantasy Store in the app. Most of the audiobooks are free, and the ones that aren’t can be bought with credit within the app. Depending on what you’re listening to—I’m partial to audio books with names like Quick and Dirty and The Rub Down—the vibration will change. Imagine listening to Ride Me while the vibrator pulses in perfect sync. Simply connect your vibrator to your phone, select a fantasy story that suits your mood, put in your ear buds, and enjoy the ride to the book’s—and your—climax. If you’re really having a good time, you can extend the experience for as long as you want.
If you use the Esthesia on your own, pairing it up with one of the fantasy stories is definitely a fun experience.
Spice Up Your Sex Life
The verdict? My husband and I love the Esthesia. My husband knows me well, so when he was controlling the vibrations, it was just right. It was thrilling to let go and let someone else take control. Now, you know I love talking about sex and sex toys, but there are some things better left to the imagination. Just know that I really enjoyed the experience. And although my husband wasn’t exactly having the same experience I was, I know he enjoyed giving me double the pleasure.
Finally, an external and internal vibrator that we can use no matter where we each are. Not only is the vibrator cute—it comes in pink or purple—but it’s comfortable and waterproof. (Don’t forget to wash your new vibrator before you use it!) Plus, it’s USB rechargeable. It charges in 60 minutes, and then you get two hours of double the pleasure.
When Vibease picked the name Esthesia—it means the capacity for sensation or feeling; sensitivity—they weren’t wrong. Although there are some kinks to be worked out with the technology, when it comes to long-distance sex toys, the Esthesia is just what you need to spice up your long-distance sex life.
Have you tried this new smart sex toy? Let me know what you think of my Esthesia review.
The Esthesia was provided in exchange for a review, but all views are my own. All links are an affiliate, and I make a small percentage on every purchase.