There are a lot of things that go into making a long-distance relationship work. But besides the big ones, communication, honesty, trust, there is a particularly exciting factor that I don’t think enough LDR couples know about. It’s called teledildonics.
Not what you were expecting? I know it sounds a little robotic, and you might be wondering what technology has to do with long-distance love.
Well, teledildonics is the combination of technology and sexuality. So, toys that are going to get you off.
What makes them special (and particularly important to LDR couples) is that many of them aim to overcome the problems physical distance creates in intimacy.
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The people at Lovense recently sent me a Lovense Max and Nora to review, and I can’t wait to share my experience with you. Max and Nora are his and her sex toys that can be used alone and with a partner. Your partner doesn’t have to be in the same room, house or even country as you to control your toy.
Before I get into our experience with using the Max and Nora, let’s break down some of the specifics of each sex toy.
In my experience, most people are not as familiar with male sex toys as they are with female ones. Pretty much everyone knows what a vibrator is; not as many people have had any experience with a masturbatory device for men.
The inner sleeve of the Lovense Max is made out of a “skin-like TPE,” which is a porous material that is very, very soft. That sleeve is then encased in a plastic case, which houses all of the fun stuff that makes the Max vibrate and contract around your man’s member. It also helps make the sex toy look discreet.
If you live in a house with other people, you could probably leave this lying around and have them be none the wiser. Although, of course, I don’t recommend doing that. Although it’s nice that the toy is discreet, I do think that it makes it look slightly unappealing. It’s not particularly sexy to have a sex toy that could be mistaken for some kind of kitchen appliance.
Interestingly, the Lovense Max combines air-pump technology. These can be set to subtle, mild and deep contractions, and vibrations, which can be low, medium or high, to try and simulate the many different sensations of sex.
Plus, the air-pump technology is unique to Lovense sex toys. Whether this mimics the feeling of sex, we will have to wait to find out. “Air pump” doesn’t immediately scream “sex” to me, though.
The Lovense Max also comes with a Bluetooth chip installed, and this is what transforms it from a regular sex toy into a lifesaver for long-distance relationships. The Bluetooth capability allows your man to either hook up his Max to his phone so he can control it from there or connect it to your phone so you can control it from anywhere in the world.
The Nora is a rabbit-style vibrator made out of silky smooth silicone. It’s 4.72 inches long, which is a manageable length for most women (but, of course, you don’t have to insert it all the way in) and is not overly large when it comes to girth.
In addition to curved G-spot stimulating head, there is also a clitoral mound, which will help you get the internal and external stimulation that’s so important for maximum pleasure.
Like the Lovense Max, the Nora combines multiple sensations. In this case, it’s vibrations and rotations, which are made to feel even better by the beads that cover the shaft. You can control these vibrations and rotations by using the buttons on the base of the toy, or you can connect it to your phone and control it from there.
Also, you have the option to control them separately or simultaneously, so you can create a lot of different vibration and rotation combinations depending on what simulation you’re looking for.
In my experience, I did not find the vibrations to be especially strong. I will say that vibration strength is a personal preference though, so you can only really know if it’s right for you by trying. I prefer the strongest setting on my vibrator to be too strong because then I know at least one of the lower ones will be just right.
Again, the Nora uses Bluetooth to connect to your phone and computer or your man’s devices. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, this is probably the part you have been waiting for, so let’s get into the nitty-gritty of how the toys interact with each other.
The toys connect using Bluetooth. To get started, your partner and you should download the app to your phone or computer and then connect your toys. The app will guide you on how to do this, but Lovense also has a helpful guide to show you how.
Once connected, invite your man to be your friend, and you can start playing.
Besides helping you to control each other’s devices, the app also works as a messaging and video platform, so you can see each other and talk to each other while you play. If you don’t want to do this, you can still use Skype or a different platform and just rely on the app for its control features.
A quick aside: If you are using your toys for solo play, the Max and Nora both move to any music you like, and you also use the app to program that. Although not specific to long-distance relationship sex, it is a fun feature that you can always experiment with on your own and then tell your partner all about it.
The Chat app can be a little bit glitchy, and if you lose connection during play, it is hard to get back into the swing of things. In my experience, it is better to use a third-party chatting and video software (such as Skype) and not rely on the app to do too much.
To get the fullest experience of the Nora, I used it in three different ways: by myself, controlling it on the device; by myself, controlling it with music; and with my partner, while he used his Max.
My partner also used his Max in the same three ways, and I got him to report his experience back to me so you can have a little more insight on whether it’s a good sex toy for your guy.
So my first experience with the Nora was using it as a regular vibrator. I personally love the rabbit-style vibrators because they give me the inner and outer stimulation I need to really enjoy the experience, and I loved being able to adjust the rotation and vibration settings independently.
Overall, I think that the Nora feels good. It’s the right size for me and has a lovely soft feel. It’s not completely silent, but it doesn’t claim to be, and I think that’s a bit of an unrealistic expectation from a vibrator. If you’re going to use it while someone else is home, I suggest listening to music while you do (or using the music to control it).
The main thing about the Nora is that I didn’t find it to vibrate strongly enough, which is obviously a major drawback for a vibrator. Right now, most of the vibration is concentrated on the clitoral mound, and I think it would be better if it also vibrated as strongly on the shaft.
The second time I used the Lovense Nora, I hooked it up to the Lovense app and let music control it. This was a unique experience. You probably have a sex playlist of your own and have experienced how sex to music can change the way you and your partner move together. This was a similar experience in that the music informed how the toy moved and kind of transported me to a new place.
It was also really nice to have a hands-free play, which I missed when I had to press the buttons on the Nora manually. It’s fun to think about all of the experiences I can have in the future depending on the music I choose as well. It makes the toy much more versatile.
Finally, it was time to use the Nora with my partner! Although we do live together now, he controlled the toy from the other room. We used the video feature because I think it’s always better to see my man, but I think it would be just as effective to use your imagination.
We notice that the long-distance sex mode didn't work very well for us. We hoped that the movement would sync well, but seemed like Max and Nora contract and vibrated without much sync between them, as other users have reported.
My partner found that the whole electric air pump to provide suction and vibrations was barely noticeable even on high (as others reported). It's quite disappointing for my partner's pleasure.
There was a momentary glitch where the Lovense app lost connection, and it took us a little bit to get the groove back. This wasn’t super annoying at the time, but I can imagine it would be if it happened a lot.
The Lovense Domi is a mini wand that’s half the size of its competitors, with just as much power! It’s controlled by a smartphone app, with a huge range of vibration options and programmable settings. This means that no matter how far apart you and your partner are, you can still enjoy those intimate moments and have a fantastic time!
In this review, we’ll take a closer look at its features, what makes it different from competing toys, its pros and cons, and the overall experience.
Don’t let the small physique of the Lovense Domi fool you; it’s no flimsy toy. Built from strong, body-safe materials, with a robust yet elegant design, this wand can keep going as long as you need it to!
Looking at the Lovense Domi in relation to its closest competitors, you’ll notice it’s considerably smaller. You’re probably thinking its mini size means a compromise in power, but the innovative rotating head technology in the Domi means that it delivers vibrations that are just as mighty as bigger models. All without the bulk of a full-size wand!
In fact, this wand is so powerful that it might not be the right choice for total beginners. The Domi is better suited to people with vibrator experience who want to ramp up the power.
The Lovense Domi has been designed with a reinforced neck that can withstand even the most vigorous play. It can rotate in all directions, allowing you to find exactly the right spot. Plus, it also makes it more durable.
This wand is controlled by the free Lovense Remote app, which can be used on devices running iOS, Android, Mac OS, or Windows. It works by Bluetooth when you’re up close and personal; either by a pre-programmed pattern or freestyle vibrations. The Domi can be synced with music to help you find the perfect rhythm, or activated by voice and other sounds in the room.
You’re free to programme a custom vibe combination using the app, or you can use one of the pre-set patterns; low, medium, high, pulse, wave, fireworks, or earthquake.
The Domi can also be controlled by WiFi, giving your partner control, no matter the distance between you! Even if you’re on the other side of the world, you can enjoy an unforgettable intimate experience.
Want to take your wand in the shower with you? No problem; the Domi is water resistant and completely cordless! This offers an excellent experience, particularly those who prefer wet play.
The Lovense Domi has a built-in rechargeable battery, and there’s a USB cable included in the box, so you can try out your new toy without delay. Plus, it's easy to charge whilst travelling so you won't be stuck without power at the worst possible moment!
The Domi is small and discreet, at just 9.2 inches (234 mm) in length; considerably more compact than other powerful wands. This makes it an ideal travel companion!
The Domi is a fantastic toy for experienced wand users, who want maximum power in a small, discreet unit. The smart controls are well-suited to tech-savvy people who want to merge cutting-edge technology with mind-blowing vibrations.
It’s an especially great choice for people who travel regularly and don’t want the bulk of a full-sized wand. As it charges via a USB cable, there are no plug conversions to worry about. Plus, its smart capabilities mean that wherever you are in the world, you can enjoy an intimate liaison with your partner! Ideal for long-distance relationships!
The Domi is pretty easy to get started with. In the box, you’ll find the wand, a USB charging cable, and a user guide. The first charge takes an hour and half, so make sure to get it juiced up in plenty of time for your first try!
Next, you’ll need to download the free Lovense Remote app from your device’s store, set up and account, and pair with your device. You can also give your partner – who will need their own account – access to your toy. From there, you’ll be able to control your Domi wand manually, programme vibration patterns, and set up sound syncing. Then, it’s time to lay back and enjoy the ride!
The app setup process is straightforward and intuitive, but there are some potential issues. Bluetooth and wireless connections aren’t always reliable, which is super frustrating when you’re in the moment and lose control of the wand.
It’s not unheard of for the wand to shut off completely due to a communication breakdown with the app. Of course, for a product with such a premium price tag, it’s disappointing that such a critical aspect of the experience still needs to be ironed out.
The Lovense Domi currently retails on Lovense for $99 (£89). It’s an expensive toy, which reflects the quality of the build, range of features, and its interactive, app-powered capabilities.
If you’d prefer to simplify the experience – keeping the power but losing the smart integration, there are plenty of options! This cordless mini wand by Acher is just $19.99 from Amazon, while this larger wireless wand from Yarosi has 8 speeds and 20 patterns for $42.95.
If the Lovense Domi isn’t quite upmarket enough, we’ve got you! Although the Lelo Smart Wand doesn’t have an app to control it, the device can adjust according to the pressure you place on it. This wand is super quiet and completely waterproof; it’s also $199 – a very indulgent treat!
*Note: Prices are correct at time of review, but are subject to change.
Looking at the reviews of Lovense’s customer service, this can be a little hit-and-miss. People have pointed to slow response times, reluctance to issue refunds or store credit, and aftercare requests being completely ignored. This is particularly disappointing for a company that sells products at high price points, and it’s not unreasonable to expect a VIP experience when purchasing a luxury device.
The Lovense Domi has a wonderful premise. Small size, mighty power; with smart controls that can be used from anywhere in the world. In short, the frequent flyer’s dream machine!
However, there are still teething problems that need to be sorted out. This device is completely reliant on its ability to connect with the app. Connectivity problems render it useless, and for a toy that costs $119, that’s unacceptable. To add insult to injury, Lovense seem not to offer a VIP aftercare service in line with its luxury pricing.
If Lovense can address these issues properly, the Domi has the potential to be a legendary mini wand. For people who aren’t sure about the price, it’s worth waiting to see how the next version of the Lovense Domi turns out. But if you have the cash to splash, go for it!
The Lovense Edge enhances sexual pleasure for men by stimulating the prostate. What sets it apart from other prostate massagers is its adjustable head, versatile settings, and smartphone operation. It’s on the pricier side, which might be off-putting for people new to these devices, but many have found it worth it. Let’s take a closer look!
The Lovense Edge is an adjustable prostate massager with wireless control. It’s operated by a smartphone app, with plenty of customisable features that can give you a different experience every time.
It has a soft feel overlapping something a bit harder so it feels sturdy by soft to touch. The insertable length of the prostate massager is 3.13 inches (79.4mm), with a maximum diameter of 1.41 inches (35.8mm). The external arm is 4.49 inches (114mm) long.
The app is free and gives you or your partner complete control, allowing you to toggle between three intensity settings; low, medium and high. You can also choose from unlimited vibration patterns – including sound or music activation, meaning you can go with the rhythm of your own music library, setting the mood.
This prostate massager has an adjustable angle, which means you can easily find the position that works best for you. No fuss or tricky angles, just a great massage in the perfect spot. Unlike other options available, it also stays still, once the adjustment has been set.
Bluetooth connection allows anyone – with permission! – to control the Lovense Edge within a distance of 20ft (6m) for standing users, or 5-10ft (2-3m) if you’re sitting down. But, with an internet connection, the prostate massager can be directed by your partner, wherever they are in the world. Ideal for long-distance couples.
Whether you’re looking at going solo, enjoying foreplay with your partner or even public play, you can use it however you like as it’s discrete and versatile.
Ultimately, it’s a great prostate massager for men who want to enhance the intensity of their orgasm. Some men might be unaware of the benefits of prostate massage during sex, or nervous about using them. In fact, 55.6% of sex toys purchased in the United States, for example, are bought by men, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Life’s too short for vanilla!
We, and some others have found that this toy is relatively large for a prostate massager. It might be too intimidating for people who are new to prostate play, so a device with a smaller insertable length and diameter might be a better option to start out. The smartphone integration also makes it relatively expensive, and quite a substantial outlay if you’re new to this type of toy.
A less expensive, back-to-basics massager might be a better choice when getting started. There’s always room to upgrade once you’ve got the hang of things.
The product itself is one complete L-shaped unit, with an adjustable angle that can be moved around. The vibration units are on each end, providing stimulation to the prostate and perineum at the same time.
Although this is generally fine, it’s important to note that it’s difficult to change position once it’s inserted because it’s designed not to move once you’ve selected the adjustment.
Being made from body safe materials and being completely waterproof, allows it to be used anywhere - even in the shower. Plus, it makes it sturdier prolonging its life.
The Lovense Edge can be easily charged using a USB cable, and there’s one included in the box. The battery lasts for 1.5-2 hours of continuous use.
As with all prostate toys, we recommend using a liberal amount of lube with the Lovense Edge and take your time. Particularly if you’re new to this massager or any kind of insertable device, as this one is on the bigger side too.
The current price of the Lovense Edge is $99 from Lovense. It’s relatively expensive for a prostate massager, but it does reflect the breadth of features, including Bluetooth and smartphone integration. Plus, the comprehensive vibration intensity and pattern options. It’s essentially the Rolls Royce of prostate massagers; great if you have the cash, but it certainly won’t suit every budget.
For people who want to try a prostate massager but would prefer not to spend so much on one piece of equipment, there are plenty of options at lower price points. Of course, this means that the designs are a little more basic, and there are fewer features, but the principle remains the same!
Staying with Amazon, there are some good choices for under $30, including similar wireless examples from Paloqueth, Phanxy, and Lovebeby. Perfect for beginners to get to grips with prostate massage before treating yourself to the Lovense Edge upgrade.
The Lovense Edge prostate massager comes with a 1-year guarantee from the manufacturer. Retailers may also offer additional warranties, but this isn’t universal.
Unfortunately, it seems when trying to use the warranty from the manufacturer they aren’t as responsive. For the price point, it should come with exceptional customer service, and it currently doesn’t.
Prostate massagers offer an amazing experience, whether it’s a solo mission or with a partner. The Lovense Edge is feature-packed, with technological innovations and an impressive adjustable design.
It is a pricey purchase, and the after sale customer service leaves a lot to be desired. Probably a bit too advanced for a beginner unless you’re going to take it slow, still, it’s a great choice for men who enjoy prostate play.
But, would be ideal for long-distance relationship couples who are looking to keep that connection (and a healthy sex life) when separated.
Lovense was provided in exchange for a review, but all views are my own. All links are an affiliate, and I make a small percentage on every purchase.
Jennifer Craig has been in a successful long-distance relationship and started SurviveLDR to encourage those who want to pursue love with partners in far land.
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