You’re Engaged to Your LDR Lover … What’s Next?

Congratulations! You are now one step ahead as you are now engaged to your significant other. It seems like you have proved that distance is nothing but a small obstacle that you both managed to overcome. However, this is not the end of your journey just yet. You still have to deal with the distance, while also navigating your relationship through this new status of yours. So, what are the things that you need to expect when you are in a long-distance engagement? I’ll discuss them one by one.

Adjusting to Your New Status

Now that you are engaged, the dynamics of your relationship may change. Whether you realize it or not, being engaged means that you are entering a deeper commitment with your significant other. This means that you and your significant other are ready to tell the public about your intention to get married one day. Normally, couples got engaged a few months before the wedding date, but for long-distance couples sometimes they get engaged without having a wedding date set. There is no right or wrong in this case, as long as both of you are on the same page. What matters is that you both are certain that you want to be married one day, and you are really serious in the relationship. For long-distance couples, being engaged can ease your feelings, make you feel less insecure, and hopefully make your relationship stronger.

Breaking The News to Your Support System

I understand that it may take a while for you to adjust to your new status as an engaged couple. When it happens, sometimes couples tend to hold off announcing the engagement. However, even if you don’t have a wedding date set yet, being engaged is a great momentum in life and you should not keep it from your support system. There are many different ways to break the news to your support system. You can do it the simple way, with a phone call or a text message, or you can also unleash the creative side of you and create a special announcement. With the help of technology, sharing a good news with your family and friends has been easier, even if they are living far away from you. You can create a video to share the engagement news, or you can also invite them to a group video call. They say the more the merrier, so I can’t see a reason not to tell your family and friends that you are now engaged.

Closing The Distance

Usually, couples got engaged because they already have the end of the long-distance relationship in sight. They have been through the hurdles or a long distance relationship together and they are ready to close the distance. It doesn’t have to be immediate, but at least you both should know how and when you will close the distance before you decided to get engaged. There are several things that you need to consider about closing the distance after you are engaged. First, you need to talk about the move. One of you has to make the move, and by being engaged it should give you a more peace of mind because you know that you already have a deeper commitment. For me, I prefer to be engaged first then talk about moving and such, rather than make a premature decision and get disappointed in the future. That’s why being engaged is the perfect timing to discuss closing the distance if you haven’t already started. The second thing that you need to talk about what happens after the move. Perhaps it can be too early to tell, but now that you are engaged, you can start to plan your life together and you can now think more far ahead. Of course, this includes talking about getting married, which brings me to my next point.

Planning a Wedding from a Distance

Everybody knows that wedding planning takes a lot of your time. There are just so many things to plan for the wedding, it seems like 24 hours a day is never enough. The situation becomes more complicated since you are in a long – distance relationship. The first thing that you both should decide is when and where the wedding is going to happen. It can happen just a couple of months after the engagement, or you may also wait longer to get married. It is entirely up to you. But once you have set the date, it’s time to start to plan for the wedding, and let me tell you a little secret about the biggest helper for long – distance wedding planning. It is called the internet. Yes, we should be really thankful because we live in a world of internet. Nowadays, you can plan everything online even without having to be present. You can use the internet to hold wedding planning meetings with your fiancé and your wedding party, and you can also use it to search for vendors that will help you on your wedding day. There are unlimited resources that you can find on the internet, all you have to do is start your search!

Enjoying Life as an Engaged Couple

The most important thing about being engaged is your happiness. Whatever your conditions, you need to enjoy being engaged. Savor the moment, enjoy being engaged, and don’t forget to always talk with your significant other. Don’t let your new status makes you get swamped with wedding planning and other stuff until you both forget to enjoy life as an engaged couple. Go on virtual dates, and if you can, try to forget about wedding planning and closing the distance every once in a while. This break can help you to relax and refresh your mind, which is very much needed when you are dealing with a lot.

To sum up, newly engaged long-distance couples need to figure out a lot of things after they got engaged, but most importantly I want to remind you to never stop enjoying your relationship together and don’t make the new status as a burden. Have you got any other tips that you would like to share? Let me know in the comment section below!

About the Author Amanda Maria

Hi! I'm Amanda and I'm in love with my long-distance partner. We have been in a LDR for over 5 years now and we are trying to close the distance soon. Happy to connect with my fellow LDR community :)

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