After three years of being in a long-distance relationship with my amazing man, our engagement became official last month. A proposal happened (but that’s a story for another day…), and then we decided to have an engagement party in my hometown. This was to introduce us as a couple to our closest family and friends. To match with everybody’s schedule, it turned out that we only had one month to prepare everything! Plus, we had to do it long-distance!
Long story short, the event ran successfully and there were no major mishaps. It was a beautiful day spent with our loved ones, and I was so happy that I finally got to introduce my man to my family and friends. So, how did we manage to plan a long-distance engagement party? In this article, I am going to share five tips to ensure smooth planning despite the distance involved.
Perhaps planning is not for everyone, but I personally love to plan things ahead. At first it kind of stressed me out to find out that I only had 1 month to prepare everything, plus my man was not beside me. To ensure that I did not miss any crucial things, I created some sort of project tracker which lists down the important items that needs to be done, the timeline, person(s) involved, as well as the budget.
It is traditionally common for the bride’s family to host the engagement party, and mine was no different. In that case, I was the main person in charge for the preparation. However, I decided to have some help and engage his family too. I was lucky that my cousin was able to help me in the preparation, and I also engaged my man’s sister to help. Together we made a great team and it also helped that we became closer while working together to prepare the event. It was a win-win situation, isn’t it?
As it does to other parts of our long-distance relationship, technology was our savior in planning our engagement party. Since my man was not present, I had to make the best use of technology. Here are the things that helped a lot:
We used Google drive to share files between each other. We had an online folder that can only be accessed by me, my man, my cousin and his sister. The four of us used that online folder on Google drive to see and review important files related to the event preparation, like pictures, or my project tracker spreadsheet that I mentioned in point 1 previously.
For this part, we relied heavily on FaceTime. I used FaceTime to make video calls daily with my man, and I used it even more when I was selecting the venue. For group call between the four of us, we used to arrange a specific time and do a Skype video call. Both were majorly helpful!
For me, there is no better platform to share media content than Pinterest, especially when it comes to event planning. With Pinterest, I could easily find and share ideas about everything! When I said everything, I meant it. From decoration to party favors and even the song list, I found it all from Pinterest. And the good thing was that despite the distance, my man could review and made some comments real time so it seemed like we were making decisions side-by-side.
It is very common for tension to arise when planning a major event, especially a life-changing one like an engagement. There might be times when everything did not seem right and made you frustrated. It happened to me too, and at first it also created arguments with my man. But, we quickly realized that we were in the same team thus we had to be open and talk about everything with each other. If you feel like you’re facing roadblocks, step back for a while and talk about it with your partner.
Seriously, this part looks like the simplest, but turned out to be the most challenging one. Often, we are so busy with planning and preparations that we forgot to chill. Remember that being engaged is just the first step to closing the distance and building your life together. Take the moment to grow your relationship and become closer to each other. Don’t let the stress or anxiety consume both of you and tear you apart.
I hope that my tips above can be helpful for those of you happy couples that are planning a long-distance engagement party. Try to remember and apply those things to your own preparation, and I hope everything will run smoothly for you. After all, it is a very exciting milestone for your relationship. Best of luck!
Christa is in a long-distance relationship with an amazing man she met during an extraordinary holiday. Unlike many holiday flings, this one gets better each day, and they are now preparing to close the distance. She lives in Indonesia, 8000 miles apart from his man. Read her stories about life (including some LDR stories) at her website, christabercerita.com.
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