5 Simple Ideas You Should Do for Long-Distance BDSM Relationship to Work

A successful relationship is not easy to maintain on its own. There are always ups and downs, and there were even times where it could lead to a great misunderstanding. However, regardless of all of that, it will be gone without prior notice once you meet your partner. That’s what love may bring. You can always meet halfway.

But when it comes to a long-distance relationship, there are many things to consider: Your time, attention, responsibility, and so forth. Sometimes you’re unsure whether you’re giving your partner enough love how you expressed those emotions when you were together.

Despite this, it is possible, and you can succeed as long as you really love your partner and if you are willing to work for it and do whatever it takes to make your relationship grow. Just this time, you are not going to do it alone. You have your partner on your back and me as well.

Allow me to share with you five simple ideas you need to carry out for your long-distance BDSM relationship to work that contains sexual and non-sexual tips. But before that, you must identify yourself first if you are the Submissive or Dominant in your relationship.

Who’s who in your LDR

Who’s who in your long-distance BDSM relationship?

When we say submissive, we are referring to someone who has the characteristic of being willing to submit to your partner.

But it does not mean that you were under your partner, nor that you love your partner more. Each one of us has a unique personality. You show your love by allowing people to love you. You trust them that much. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

The fundamental goal of a submissive relationship in relationship is to offer your sub-partners a healthy submissive relationship. So, if you are dominant in a relationship, you should ask for your sub-partners consent. This shows that you respect your partner even if they are submissive to you.

On the other hand, if you are dominant in the relationship, you are goal-oriented, attentive, and decisive in everything you do, and you carried that attitude in your relationship.

From the point of view of other people, you may appear to be controlling or impatient. But your partner will likely recognize that you just want everything to go your way so that you can make a decision and proceed.

You know your sub-partners trust you. That’s why you have to be responsible for taking leads.

If you find yourself dominating your subordinate partner in bed, it’s the most incredible thing you can do for your partner if they are submissive.

That’s why if you really want to make your long-distance BDSM relationship work. You must acknowledge who you are in a relationship with and respect your partner’s personality differences before doing the five ideas I included for you in the next paragraph.

Make your LDR work

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5 Simple Sexual and Non-Sexual Ideas you should do for your Long-Distance BDSM Relationship to work

The following list of activities includes both sexy stuff like masturbating together and asking for permission to orgasm. There are also non-sexual activities that can help you feel closer to your partner by being just a click away. Let’s kick in with:

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1. Always Update Your Dom/Sub Partner

First thing first, even if your sub or dom, you should always update your partner by informing them how your day goes.

Give them a good morning and good night message such as “Good morning. I’ll be busy today because I’ll be doing this and that” In that way, your partner will not be worried about you all day. It will assure them.

I understand that if you may say, “oh, that’s easy peasy,” but, believe me, if you are in a long-distance BDSM relationship for so long, there are times that you might forget to update your partner because your too busy schedule. And that will become the beginning of your quarrel, and we don’t want that to happen.

Remember: Since you are in a long-distance relationship, you have different lives and a different time zone. It is understandable that sometimes, you can’t be responsive all the time since you don’t have to stick with your phone every minute/hour just to make your partner secure.

Every day, all it takes is less than one minute to keep your partner updated. In that way, you will find that your relationship with your partner will be much easier if you do this.

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2. Make Use of Today’s Technology

Nowadays, everything is possible. You can buy, see, and go to different places using the internet. You might probably know a lot of apps online, such as Messenger, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Skype, What’s App, etc.

Simply by just one click, you would see what your partner has been doing, their face, and their voice. That is the reason why this generation is called the Instant Generation, as we literally have the whole world at our fingertips.

With this advantage, we could save your long-distance BDSM relationship by installing the Apps you and your partner agreed on.

As opposed to the older generation, if you are in a long-distance relationship, you may be required to write a love letter, in which a love letter would take a long time to be received by your partner.

However, in order to make it work, you and your partner should be committed to each other. Because, even though there are many possible ways to connect, there are also many ways to keep you distracted.

Therefore, you have to decide which apps you and your partner should be using and be honest. And if there are other distractions that you both encounter, talk about them.

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3. Engage in Virtual Sex Using Remote Control Vibrator

In that way, you could make your dominant partner be in charge of your long-distance BDSM relationship. You can feel the connection with your partner as if you are actually making love to them using a virtual sexting setup.

What are the sex toys that are suitable for long-distance BDSM relationships? Well, there are many options you should consider in picking one. Some vibrators can stimulate your g-spot and c-spot, automatic masturbators, and **long-distance** couple sex toys that send your movement to one another.

Suppose you are looking for the kind of remote control vibrator that has different features such as sending your vibrations, g-spot, c-spot stimulation. You can find that using Monster Pub. You just have to put this vibrator in your pants simply, and your dominant partner will control it for you from a distance.

I love this Monster Pub because it could also be beneficial when you are into Kegel Exercise. It’s like having four powerful features in one vibration. If you would like to know more about Monster Pub, you may check it out here.

Trust me. Your dominant partner would love to use it for you because it is perfect for discreet public play, and it will tease you dearly. Plus, it has a 30db whisper-quiet vibrator so that no one would hear about your naughty little game you in.

However, if you’re dominant and want automatic masturbators, I recommend you use Kiiroo Keon and Feel Stroker. It will allow you to enjoy automated 230 strokes per minute and 9 Vibration Levels with 3 Contraction Settings.

Certainly, your partner would love to get this, especially that it has a real-life touch with its vaginal-feel sleeves. You would probably say bye to your manual type of masturbator with this Kiiroo Keon and Feel Stroker.

And lastly, for the other type of vibrator, if you want to have sex with your partner virtually, like doing it simultaneously, I recommend you use the Max 2 and Nora couple sex toys. Simply because every time you control the vibrator of Nora, it will send an automatic sensation to your Max 2.

I couldn’t stress it more aside from that. You would receive the stimulation and movement that your partner is getting, passing it through you.

Regardless of which vibration you choose, I can assure you that all can be controlled via Remote Control, Apps, or Bluetooth. Therefore, it could help you to reach orgasm as if you are having sex with your partner. It is already proven and tested that it would lessen your longing for each other the way beyond your expectations.

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4. Set up a Surprise Role-Playing Activity with your Partner

Every once in a while, having a virtual role-play with your partner can add spice to your long-distance BDSM relationship. However, as long as you both discuss what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do before proceeding with the role-playing activity at night, you can make a good laid all of it.

You and your partner must decide which character from the movie you are aiming to achieve. You can either play a submissive-master just like Christian Gray and Anastacia in Fifty Shades of Gray, a vampire scenario like Bella and Edward in Twilight Saga Series, a princess-prince, teacher-student, etc.

During the activity, I believe it is very important to understand what each of you hopes to gain. And to accelerate things up, you can include using long-distance sex toys, which we talked about in the upper part.

Believe me. Your partner would love this kind of role-play. However, in doing this, since you both discuss your limitations and the available role you want. You can now surprise your partner, but you have to choose a perfect date. Don’t do role-playing as if it’s part of your everyday routine.

Instead, do it if you’re celebrating an anniversary or any momentous occasion. In that way, your partner has something to look forward to.

Perhaps you could do it without prior notice, like surprising your partner to perform their imagination, dress up surprisingly before you hit the video call bottom. It will be fun to see your partner’s reaction, I swear.

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5. Acknowledge Each Other Love Language: Follow/Give Commands

Just like any other physical relationship, a long-distance BDSM relationship is not excluded from knowing what your love language is. It is by far the most important thing you should acknowledge to make your relationship stronger.

There are five love languages you must consider, and each one has different kinds of following and command gestures, which is also suitable in long-distance BDSM relationships to work.

  • The first one is The Words of Affirmation – This is where you need/want to hear positive and sweet talks from your partner. Or you are showing your support for each other through words.

For the follow and command gesture, you would message your partner every day saying, “Good morning beautiful. You can do it always, I believe you.” or any affirmative words that your partner likes.

  • The second one is The Act of Service – This is where you need/want to give physical care to your partner, such as reminding your partner of small things, taking care of them virtually.

For the follow and command gesture, you will let your partner choose which dress you should wear, underwear, and partake in any decision-making task to help your partner.

  • The next is The Giving Gifts – This is where you need/want gifts to show your love to your partner—the kind of investment in your partner through the material things they like.

For the follow and command gesture, you are in the means of sending gifts and ordering food and delivering it to their address and or buying their favorite bags, shoes, dress, etc.

  • And then, The Quality Time – This is where you love spending time with your partner virtually. You may want to talk to them for hours for the follow and command gesture for hours, and your partner should also commit to spending time with you.
  • Lastly, The Physical Touch – This is where you want to feel the presence of your partner. But since you were in a long-distance relationship. You want to do this with your partner together, like taking a bath, doing exercise, engaging in virtual sex, and watching your favorite movies together.

Why is love language important in long-distance BDSM relationships? Having a piece of knowledge and acknowledging each love language will help you identify how you give commands as a dominant and follow orders as submissive.

For example, if your dominant partner’s love language is touch, you, as a submissive, should comply with their needs. That is your duty as your partner.

While if you’re submissive, and your love language gifts. Your dominant partner should know how to give an order or to please you that would suit your taste in things, like giving you bags or your favorite shoes.

Because being in a relationship means knowing how to compromise each other’s differences and similarities—and doing things that are sufficient to express your love not just for you alone but also for your partner even if you’re in a long-distance BDSM relationship.

A Key to Remember

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A Key to Remember: Always set the Date/Time at Everything.

In whatever you do, always set time for everything. You should come up with a time with your partner to catch up every day if you both have busy schedules.

For example, you and your partner agree that you and your partner will have “baby time” for an hour a day to fill in the hours that your partner did not contact you the whole day.

In those hours, you have to put your attention on your partner to catch things up. Do the things that you both like doing and consider the ideas above, as long as you spend time with one another. Through this, I see no reason for your long-distance BDSM relationship to work.

5 Simple Ideas You Should Do for Long-Distance BDSM Relationship to Work
5 Simple Ideas You Should Do for Long-Distance BDSM Relationship to Work

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