One of the big things couples have to figure out is how to keep their sex life exciting. You don’t want to lose that ‘new love’ feeling, you want to keep feeling the passion of when you first met. All of us can use some suggestions that beat the neolithic tech of yesterday's vibrating panties.
It’s no secret that I’m a big fan of remote control vibrators. But these days I want something more exciting, more powerful. Sexting is fun; cybersex is even better, but there’s nothing quite like a sex toy to add some excitement to your sex life. I like his and hers matching sex toys, but if I’m really honest, my favorite are remote control vibrators. “Why?” you may ask.
Because, ladies, they’re all about our pleasure! But that doesn’t mean your man won’t enjoy it, too. In fact, he might even enjoy it more than you do.
Remote Control Vibrators
These remote control vibrators can be controlled from anywhere which means you don’t have to be together to get excited about each other. Unlike vibrating panties and some eggs that can only be controlled from a set distance. All you need is a smartphone and a Wi-Fi connection to operate these. And there’s something so sexy about having your man involved in the sexual pleasures that you would normally do alone, especially as the vibrators tend to be small and discreet enough to take out in public—if you’re brave enough.
There are lots of remote control vibrators to choose from, but in this post I share the best ones you have to try and the worst to avoid. They’re versatile and controllable by an app, and they all have unique features that will easily spice up your sex life.
Deciding on the best one for you will depend on what you’re looking for. So, let’s take a closer look at what they each offer. Here’s the definitive list of the best and worst app-controlled vibrators for 2020!
Best Clitoral Vibrator: Vibease
Okay, where to start with the Vibease? This small-but-powerful long distance vibrator has A LOT of pros.
It’s good-looking, versatile, comfortable, easy to use; oh, and it also happens to be a fantastic wearable vibrator!
Maybe the best one is that it’s wearable. So if you and your partner are in a particularly adventurous mood, you can slip it into your panties and slip out the door. He can then control it when you’re at work, out to dinner or just about anywhere you dare to do it! Also, it’s completely silent (or as near to silent as a vibrator can be – if it made no noise it wouldn’t be working!). Advertised as the quietest vibrator on the market, this is the perfect toy for when you want to have discreet fun.
Often the idea of getting it on with your partner in public is a little more fun in theory than it is in practice. You have to find a spot, a position and get everything done as fast as possible in case you get caught. But with the Vibease, you don’t have any of those problems; it's ll the fun of sex in public, without any of the risk. Plus, your partner can control it from anywhere in the world.
For couples in an LDR, the Vibease is a brilliant little tool to keep the spark alive. Like the majority of high-end toys, it’s remote controlled via Bluetooth and a smartphone app and is compatible with Android and iPhone devices. Download the Vibease app for free, ask your partner to do the same, then connect the toy via Bluetooth. This is quick and straightforward. Now, it’s time to hand over control to your partner and let them direct the vibes!
This wearable vibrator is sturdy, waterproof, and body-safe. At $119, it’s not cheap; but really, can you put a price on blissful, remote-control happiness?
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I’m a big fan of this small-but-powerful vibrator. It adds spice to your long distance sex life without being an enormous investment. If you want a wearable, internet-controlled vibrator, the Vibease is one of the best options out there.
Fun Ways To Use The Vibease
Using the Vibease is a treat in itself, but, there are a few neat ideas on creating a tantalizing experience with your new Vibease vibrator.
A fun game might be to put it in your panties in the morning and let your man know. Then, he can surprise you by turning it on whenever he feels like it. He might just want a little running commentary in return. But I’m sure you can use your imagination when it comes to getting the most pleasure out of the Vibease.
You can also take your new Vibease around town to an outdoor restaurant or park and dare your partner to turn it on each time the waiter comes or a jogger passes to see if you can hold your cool. You can incorporate texting into this and wait for your partner's Vibease action.
Finally, if you ever want to use this toy alone, it also has a cool feature where it vibrates in sync with fantasy stories so you can turn on a little erotica and let the vibrations do the rest.
Best G spot Vibrator: Lovense Lush 2
If you’re looking for the Rolls Royce of G-spot vibrators (and let’s face it, who isn’t?), you’ll find it in the Lush 2. I’ve had the pleasure, quite literally, of testing out countless toys, and this is definitely one of my favourites.
The design is perfect for G-spot stimulation, and its body-safe, waterproof construction makes it perfect for use just about anywhere. Discreet, 4 times more powerful than vibrating panties and most bluetooth sex eggs, the Lovense Lush 2 is totally wearable and sure to spice up your LDR.
Lush2 is compatible with Android and iPhones and it works through Bluetooth. It's really easy to set it up with your phone and with your partner's phone. You download the Lovense Wearables app from the app store, fill in your email details to register, and switch on your toy.
You can happily use this vibrator alone by controlling the vibes from your own phone. But since we're looking at ways to spice things up in your relationship, you're going to want to connect with your partner. And this one is ridiculously easy to use.
In order to give your partner control, you can send him a request via the app and once he’s accepted it, you’re good to go. When you’re long distance, the vibrations are controlled by the internet. As long as you have Wi-Fi, you’re set for some fun.
You, or your partner, control the vibrations via the touchscreen on the app, sliding your finger around to speed up, slow down, and change the pattern. This has got to be one of the simplest, and most fun ways to get your buzz. It's completely natural; you let your fingers do the walking but because it's your phone you're playing with, you can do it anywhere you dare! And, of course, your partner can have fun on his phone when he's on the train or in a meeting, knowing he's sending you wild.
As well as partner-controlled play, it also syncs with music, which is a pretty unique experience! And if you want straightforward solo use, it’ll do that too – straight from the app.
One thing to keep in mind is that control can sometimes cut out if you’re wearing thick clothes. Not ideal if you’re in the middle of a mind-blowing session, but we’ll cut the antenna some slack. So, if it’s a cold day, turn up the thermostat and let your Lush 2 do its thing without interruption!
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There’s so much to love about the Lovense Lush 2. It’s powerful, easy-to-use, and the Bluetooth remote control is perfect for long distance couples. The Lush 2’s price tag makes it something of an investment, but not one that you’ll regret!
Another G Spot vibrator: OhMiBod Esca 2
We’re really spoiled for choice in the G-spot vibrator market. As much as I love the Lovense Lush 2, there’s a competitor waiting in the wings. Its name is Esca 2, made by Kiiroo’s OhMiBod brand.
Put the Lush 2 and the Esca 2 side-by-side and the differences are barely noticeable. Not to antenna-shame anyone here, but Esca 2 is slightly bigger at the tip. As we know though, it’s not always about the size.
Just like the Lush 2, the Esca 2 is totally wireless, controlled by a free app that can be used by you and your partner, no matter how far apart you happen to be. All you need is reliable internet access!
It’s also just as comfortable as the Lush 2, and vibration range is decent. There’s an LED light on the tip, which will probably divide opinion; some will appreciate it as a gimmick, but it doesn’t make a difference to overall performance.
The downside of the Esca 2 is that the battery life isn’t as impressive as the Lush 2 which could be a result of the LED light. I found myself reaching for the charging cable more often, and when I’m in the mood, it can be a slight turnoff.
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The difference in performance between the Lush 2 and Esca 2 is wafer-thin, but the slightly lacklustre battery does knock a point from the Esca 2, placing it second. Still, it’s still an impressive, reliable toy for long distance couples. Well worth the investment!
Best Anal Vibrator: The Lovense Hush Butt Plug
A toy that’s built for both you and your long distance partner, the Lovense Hush is a girthy beast of a butt plug! I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it to beginners in anal play, but if you’re experienced, you won’t find better than this.
Like all Lovense toys, this is well-designed, luxurious, and packed with great features. It looks expensive, and at $119, it has a price tag to match!
Setting up the Hush butt plug is really straightforward. Once it’s charged, simply download the free smartphone app, connect by Bluetooth, and get ready for the ultimate in anal pleasure! Handing control over to your partner – or taking control of their Hush – couldn’t be easier. Link up on the app and enjoy the unexpected thrills.
Let’s talk about size and strength. If you like a big and bold butt plug, you’ve found the right toy. It has plenty of girth and delivers strong, powerful vibrations. But if you’re planning to take it out and about, make sure you go somewhere noisy; the Hush butt plug is not a quiet guy. It’s a fair exchange if you prioritise power over discretion!
The Lovense Hush butt plug is completely waterproof and made from soft, body-safe materials. The construction feels sturdy and secure, and it’s easy to recharge via a USB cable that’s included in the box.
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The Lovense Hush butt plug won’t be for everyone, but if you’re into anal toys that deliver girth, power, and wireless control, there’s simply nothing better. It’s a solid investment for long distance partners who love anal toys!
Best Remote Control Massager: Lovense Edge
Girls shouldn’t have all the fun, so let’s turn it over to the guys for a hot second. If you or your partner is into prostate play, the Edge is more than a simple prostate massager; it’s adjustable, versatile, and remote controlled via Bluetooth. The premium prostate toy exclusively for connoisseurs.
The Edge has a modern, stylish design. Prostate massagers can look kind-of samey, but this one from Lovense stands out as a luxury toy. The soft black silicone makes insertion comfortable – with a generous amount of lube, of course. Adjustable arms provide a customised fit – so, instead of having to contort yourself to accommodate the Edge, it’ll work around you. How considerate!
Once it’s charged, using the USB cable included in the box, the Edge is easy to pair with a smartphone via Bluetooth. Unlimited vibration patterns, at any speed, allow you to create a unique experience every time. The Edge also has sound and music activation, which is actually a cool feature that helps you to get off to the sound of your lover’s voice, or your favourite sexy song.
For long distance partners, the Edge helps to maintain the intimacy that’s so important when you’re living far apart. As long as you both have a decent internet connection, you’ll enjoy uninterrupted vibes.
A note of caution for men who are new to prostate play; the Lovense Edge is generously-sized. I’d advise working your way up to it if you’re worried about taking on a big challenge! Given that the Edge costs $119, it’s also a good idea to be completely sure about prostate massagers before you commit a big chunk of cash. You can always upgrade later!
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There are standard prostate toys, and there’s the Edge. It’s simply better than every other massager out there. Bluetooth and app connectivity make it perfect for long distance couples, particularly if the session is a surprise! The expensive price tag is a downside, but if you’re serious about prostate play, this is your guy.
Budget-friendly Vibrator: The Monster Pub
While the bells-and-whistles toys have their benefits, there’s a lot to be said for tried-and-tested remote controlled kegel balls. And you’d be hard pressed to find a better example than this $30 wireless set from Monster Pub. That’s right, thirty dollars.
This budget-friendly, multi-purpose toy helps to strengthen pelvic floor muscles (which is especially helpful for women after they’ve having children), enhance sexual pleasure, and it’s a fun way to mix things up with your partner – particularly if you’re into public play!
There are actually three types of kegel ball in this set; a single ball that’s perfect for beginners, double balls that gradually build strength in pelvic muscles, and a vibrating duo with one vibrating ball. The latter is my favourite, but all three are great experiences.
All of the kegel balls are made from body-safe medical-grade silicone and hypoallergenic plastic, which is completely free from the usual suspects, like phthalates, BPA, dioxin, and latex.
The best thing about this set is the wireless remote control for the vibrating kegels. Wow! Although it can’t be controlled via app (I mean, what can you really expect for 30 bucks?), it’s perfect for handing over control with a remote when you’re with your partner. It’s great for using it in public, but it’s also amazing to spice things up in the bedroom when you’re on a budget. There are 10 vibration modes to choose from, and you’ll definitely enjoy working your way through them all.
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At $30, it’s definitely worth a try!
Worst option: Lelo Tiani 2
OK, let’s get one thing straight. I don’t dislike this toy. There are positives, which I’ll go into, but there’s also one huge negative; it’s not app-controlled but is very expensive like the other toys in the list. For the price, a lack of app is a big no no, particularly for LDR couples.
That said, let’s explore what the Tiani 2 actually does. It’s a couple’s massager, which means that it’s inserted into your vagina during sex, delivering sweet vibes to you and your partner.
One of the tricky things about this type of toy is that it can make things a little crowded, particularly if your partner is blessed with generous girth. Because of this, using the Tiani 2 does require a bit of creativity – and a lot of lube.
But, the main stumbling block for this toy is control. Or, to be specific, a lack of app control. While I appreciate the design and the range of the included remote control, it’s pretty useless if you want to hand over control of your vibrator to a partner thousands of miles away. Plus, at an eye-watering $159.99, you should expect more. The bottom line? There are far better products you can buy – often at a lower price.
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There are aspects of the Lelo Tiani that I appreciate, but this toy is overpriced, and of questionable use to long-distance couples – when your primary goal is to keep the magic alive from afar.
Other Top App Controlled Vibrators
We-Vibe 4 Plus
The We-Vibe 4 Plus doesn’t have a very sexy name, but it’s a very sexy toy. It is similar to the Vibease in that it’s a remote controlled vibrator, but that’s where the similarities end.
Unlike the Vibease, the We-Vibe is shaped so that it can stimulate your clit and your G-spot at the same time; it definitely beats vibrating panties when you're looking for two times the fun in a new style.
If you’re using it for solo play or when your man’s in town, there’s a wireless remote control so that you don’t have to worry about using your hands. The best thing about it, though, is that it’s designed to be used during sex, so you can slip it on, then, your man can enter you; and you can both enjoy the vibrations.
I know you might be more focused on the long distance sex now, but it’s always nice to know that you can get lots of use out of your favorite toys. Plus, I’m sure your man would like to hear about that when he’s controlling it from 4,000 miles away. Again, the toy can be controlled by an app on Android or iPhone, so distance is not a problem.
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Add some spice to your LDR sex life with the We-Vibe. You can use it for solo play, or let your partner control it through the app, even from thousands of miles away. When you're finally together, you can go ahead and try it out and enjoy it together.
We-Vibe Features
When it comes to vibrations, there are 10 modes to choose from, which include the standard vibrate, pulse and wave, and the more intriguingly named bounce, cha cha cha, and peak. I guess you have to try those to know exactly what they feel like, but something tells me most women won’t mind volunteering for that experiment.
If you want to change things up, your man can make a custom playlist, choosing the different vibe, duration and intensity and surprise you with it. Or make your own, and let him control it! Half the fun of introducing a toy into your long-distance sex life is experimenting.
Kiiroo Fuse
Diving right into the Fuse vibrator, this device brings sexual satisfaction into the same generation as current technology. The Fuse is enabled with virtual reality capabilities; that’s right. You can enjoy the sensations and the visual pleasure of a satisfying session with this device.
The Fuse is also equipped with touch-sensitive technology, which means the deeper you go, the more intense the sensations become.
Fuse is compatible with all Kiiroo devices and is programmed to interact with each one, so mutual play is now a basic feature. You can control your partner’s device or let them control yours. When done at the same time, it’s like you’re not even worlds apart. Fuse connects with the Fleshlight Launch, a renowned sex toy made for men, and it also connects with the Kiiroo Pearl2 vibrator, which now has VR capability.
The Fuse is one of the more advanced of sexual toys. The device is also Bluetooth enabled, creating a two-way communication portal for you and babe. It is equipped with Fleshlight, which provides visual feedback about how your partner’s stimulation is going. This device is definitely an all-in-one pleasure tool.
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Add some spice to your LDR sex life with the We-Vibe. You can use it for solo play, or let your partner control it through the app, even from thousands of miles away. When you're finally together, you can go ahead and try it out and enjoy it together.
A luxurious, beautifully-designed toy that’s packed full of up-to-date technology. As well as remote control from any distance, the intuitive, touch-sensitive feature is super realistic. It’s expensive, no doubt, but if you’re looking for a wireless rabbit vibrator that ticks all the boxes, this is it.
Which toys are your favourite? Let me know in the comments below!