Here are the Best (and Worst) Remote-Controlled Vibrators

One of the big things long-distance couples have to figure out is how to keep their sex life exciting when they don’t get to see each other as much as they’d like.

If you've just gotten into an LDR, you might even be wondering HOW you incorporate sex into your relationship at all! All of us can use some suggestions that beat the neolithic tech of yesterday's vibrating panties.

It’s no secret that I’m a big fan of remote controlled vibrators​. But these days I want something more exciting, more powerful. Sexting is fun; cyber sex is even better, but there’s nothing quite like a sex toy to add some excitement to your sex life. I like his and hers matching sex toys, but if I’m really honest, my favorite are remote-control vibrators. Why, you may ask?

Because, well, they’re all about our pleasure, ladies. But that doesn’t mean your man won’t enjoy it, too. In fact, he might even enjoy it more than you do.

These remote controlled vibrators are made for long-distance relationships, as they’re controllable from anywhere in the world, unlike vibrating panties and some eggs that can only be controlled from a set distance. All you need is a smartphone and a Wi-Fi connection to operate these. And there’s something so sexy about having your man involved in the sexual pleasures that you would normally do alone, especially as the vibrators tend to be small enough and discreet enough to take out in public—if you’re brave enough.

There are lots of remote controlled vibrators to choose from, but in this post I share my top five. They’re versatile and controllable by app, and they all have unique features that will easily spice up your sex life.

Deciding on the best one for you will depend on what you’re looking for. Let’s take a closer look at what they each offer.

Vibease  ($119)

OK, where to start with the Vibease? This small-but-powerful vibrator has A LOT of pros.

Maybe the best one is that it’s wearable. So if you and your partner are in a particularly adventurous mood, you can slip it into your panties and slip out the door. He can then control it when you’re at work, out to dinner or just about anywhere you dare to do it! Also, it’s completely silent (or as near to silent as a vibrator can be – if it made no noise it wouldn’t be working!). Advertised as the quietest vibrator on the market, this is the perfect toy for when you want to have discreet fun.

Often the idea of getting it on with your partner in public is a little more fun in theory than it is in practice. You have to find a spot, a position and get everything done as fast as possible in case you get caught. But with the Vibease, you don’t have any of those problems; it's ll the fun of sex in public, without any of the risk. Plus, your partner can control it from anywhere in the world.

Obviously, that’s the most important part as we’re talking about wireless remote-control vibrators that are perfect for long-distance relationships. So how does the controlling part work?

The Vibease is compatible with Android and iPhones and is controlled via app. You just have to set it up to connect your phone to your lover’s, and he can have full control of your vibrator. The best part is that you don’t have to have the same type of phones. All you need is an Internet connection.

Fun Ways to Use the Vibease

Using the Vibease is a treat in itself, but, there are a few neat ideas on creating a tantalizing experience with your new Vibease vibrator.

A fun game might be to put it in your panties in the morning and let your man know. Then, he can surprise you by turning it on whenever he feels like it. He might just want a little running commentary in return. But I’m sure you can use your imagination when it comes to getting the most pleasure out of the Vibease.

You can also take your new Vibease around town to an outdoor restaurant or park and dare your partner to turn it on each time the waiter comes or a jogger passes to see of you can hold your cool. You can incorporate texting into this and wait for your partner's Vibease action.

Finally, if you ever want to use this toy alone, it also has a cool feature where it vibrates in sync with fantasy stories so you can turn on a little erotica and let the vibrations do the rest.

Special Vibease Coupon for SurviveLDR readers: Vibease normally sells for $119, but you can receive a 25% discount if you apply the coupon code Jennifer or click on this link. 

Lovense Lush ($99) 

The Lovense Lush is a very sexy-looking vibrator that is nicely designed to stimulate the hot twosome: g-spot and clit.

Discreet, 4 times more powerful than vibrating panties and most bluetooth sex eggs, the Lovense Lush is totally wearable and sure to spice up your LDR.

So here’s the techie bit about how Lovense Lush works. Like the Vibease and the We-Vibe, Lush is compatible with Android and iPhones and it works through Bluetooth. It's really easy to set it up with your phone and with your partner's phone. You download the Lovense Wearables app from the app store, fill in your email details to register, and switch on your toy.

You can happily use this vibrator alone by controlling the vibes from your own phone. But since we're looking at ways to spice things up in your relationship, you're going to want to connect with your partner. 

In order to give your partner control, you can send him a request via the app and once he’s accepted it, you’re good to go. When you’re long-distance, the vibe is controlled by the internet. As long as you have Wi-Fi, you’re set for some fun.

You, or your partner, control the vibrations via the touchscreen on the app, sliding your finger around to speed up, slow down, and change the pattern. This has got to be one of the simplest, and most fun, ways to get your buzz. It's completely natural; you let your fingers do the walking but because it's your phone you're playing with, you can do it anywhere you dare! And, of course, your boyfriend can have fun on his phone when he's on the train or in a meeting, knowing he's sending you wild.

Because the vibrator can also be controlled from close range, it’s a good option for when your boyfriend is back in town – give him the controls and use this as part of your foreplay in the bedroom or even as a sexy game when you’re out on a date. In fact, I found this one was better at a close distance as there were some problems with lost connections and difficulty setting up the shared connection when my partner was out of town.

I've written a product review on Lovense Lush, you can read it here.

We-Vibe 4 Plus ($179)

The We-Vibe 4 Plus doesn’t have a very sexy name, but it’s a very sexy toy. It is similar to the Vibease in that it’s a remote-controlled vibrator, but that’s where the similarities end.

Unlike the Vibease, the We-Vibe is shaped so that it can stimulate your clit and your G-spot at the same time; it definitely beats vibrating panties when you're looking for two times the fun in a new style.

If you’re using it for solo play or when your man’s in town, there’s a wireless remote control so that you don’t have to worry abut using your hands. The best thing about it, though, is that it’s designed to be used during sex, so you can slip it on, then, your man can enter you; and you can both enjoy the vibrations.

I know you might be more focused on the long-distance sex now, but it’s always nice to know that you can get lots of use out of your favorite toys. Plus, I’m sure your man would like to hear about that when he’s controlling it from 4,000 miles away. Again, the toy can be controlled by an app on Android or iPhone, so distance is not a problem.

We-Vibe Features

When it comes to vibrations, there are 10 modes to choose from, which include the standard vibrate, pulse and wave, and the more intriguingly named bounce, cha cha cha, and peak. I guess you have to try those to know exactly what they feel like, but something tells me most women won’t mind volunteering for that experiment. 

If you want to change things up, your man can make a custom playlist, choosing the different vibe, duration and intensity and surprise you with it. Or make your own, and let him control it! Half the fun of introducing a toy into your long-distance sex life is experimenting.

Fuse is compatible with all Kiiroo devices and is programmed to interact with each one, so mutual play is now a basic feature. You can control your partner’s device or let them control yours. When done at the same time, it’s like you’re not even worlds apart. Fuse connects with the Fleshlight Launch, a renowned sex toy made for men, and it also connects with the Kiiroo Pearl2 vibrator, which now has VR capability.

The Fuse is one of the more advanced of sexual toys. The device is also Bluetooth enabled, creating a two-way communication portal for you and babe. It is equipped with Fleshlight, which provides visual feedback about how your partner’s stimulation is going. This device is definitely an all-in-one pleasure tool.

OhMiBod Esca ($95)

For remote control use, connect your device to the Feel Connect app so you and your partner can control each other’s pleasure. Just like the Fuse, Esca has a built-in LED light that provides your man feedback on how the pleasure is progressing on your end.

Why not send this article to your man and let him know what to get you the next time he wants to surprise you? A remote-control vibrator won’t ever compare to having your man at home with you—but it can come pretty damn close. Try it out and let me know!