If you want to make a long-distance relationship work, you have to experiment with ways of keeping intimacy alive.
Spicing up your relationship with surprise gifts and naughty sexts is the first step. But to take it to the next level, you might need to invest in a long-distance sex toy.
My partner and I have experimented with a lot of sex toys, and there really is something for everyone. One of the newest LDR sex toys to hit the market (er, bedroom) is the Lovense Lush.
I’ll go into more detail, but here are the most important things to know about the Lush:
If you want a few more details, read on for a detailed Lovense Lush review.
When the Lush arrived, I was eager to get it out and see what all the fuss was about. It arrives in a small (although not discrete) box, and when I opened it—to be honest—I was a little surprised. I’ve never seen a sex toy quite like the Lush.
The body is curved to hit your G-spot, but there is also a bendable Bluetooth antenna that extends beyond the body, giving it a strange shape. (A little sperm-like, no?) The insertable portion of the vibrator is about 1.4 inches thick and 3.14 inches long, and the external antenna portion is about 4.8 inches long.
In addition to the Lush Bluetooth bullet vibrator, the box includes a USB charging cable and a user guide.
Before you use it, don’t forget to make sure it is charged. Plug the charger into a USB port or wall adapter (not included) for about an hour to get fully charged for up to two hours of hands-free fun with your partner—no matter where he is.
Made from a silky, soft silicone, the Lush is incredibly comfortable and safe. When you use it, make sure you use water-based lubricants. A silicone-based lube will damage it. Before you use your Lush for the first time and after every use, be sure to give it a good scrubbing with an antibacterial soap and hot water to ensure the device stays clean and germ-free.
Allow it to drip dry or use a lint-free, clean cloth. Purchase a USB adapter head for charging the device as it does not come with one. A basic cell phone adapter head will work.
When you’re ready to play with your new toy, you and your long-distance lover have to download the smartphone app.
The app walks you through how to pair your phone—and your lover’s phone—with the vibrator step by step. When you register your vibrator, you can choose a nickname and set a password. To connect the vibrator to the app, make sure the Bluetooth on your smartphone device is on. It took me less than a five minutes to connect the two devices although I have heard from others that it took a lot longer and was a little tricky to do.
Now your phone becomes the remote control for the Lush. Within the app, you can use it like a traditional remote control, tap and slide the screen to change the vibration setting in real time, or create custom vibration patterns that suit your needs. The Lush responds to sound-activated vibrations, and you can even set it to vibrate in time with your favorite songs. Imagine the powerful pulses you’d feel during “Shake & Tremble” by Django Django.
When you are ready for playtime, the app has a messaging platform so you can coordinate with your partner. Your partner can then send a pattern, live control, sync together or send you a picture. It took my partner a few minutes to figure out what he was doing when he was moving his finger around on the screen, but trust me, I made sure he knew when he had finally got it right.
The Lush is compatible with all basic up-to-date platforms. As of January 2018, the Lush can be used on:
One of the things I like most about the Lush is that it’s an internal vibrator, making it three to four times more powerful than most love eggs, vibrating panties and bullet vibrators. Depending on your body, the Lush is perfectly curved to hit your G-spot. The vibrations are not only deep and powerful, but they’re also relatively quiet and discreet.
The Lush is designed for internal use (although the external tail does provide some clitoral vibrations), but if you find that the length and shape of the Lush don’t fit your body, another way I’ve experimented playing with the Lush is as an external clitoral stimulator. The vibrations feel great, and your partner can still control them.
Although the Lush has the longest control range out of all wearable Bluetooth vibrators, there were some hiccups. At 360-degree standing range, the Lush should connect to the smartphone device up to 30-feet around 10-feet. At 360-degree sitting range, the Lush should connect from 5-10 feet away.
When my partner and I were using the Lush, we found the vibrator would occasionally disconnect from the app if the Bluetooth signal were obstructed by clothing or other body parts. If you do want to wear the Lush in public (who doesn’t want to be a little naughty sometimes?), try giving it a test run first. Make sure you know how to situate it inside you so you’re comfortable—otherwise even the most powerful vibrations won’t feel good.
While the shape of the device is very small, there is not much to the tail that sits near the clitoris when the device is inserted. It does provide minor vibratory stimulation, however, it is not enough to use it as the main source of clitoral foreplay. As all female bodies are different, women who have a larger clitoris or vaginal area might find it more pleasurable to use an additional clitoral vibrator.
Some may find that the device is on the shorter end of the spectrum, not penetrating very deep. However, users should be reminded that this device is a G-spot vibrator, made specifically to stimulate this are of the body over any other.
As I mentioned before, this device has one of the longest ranges of any Bluetooth vibrator, however, clothing and other obstructions can shorten the range of the device, making it lose connectivity.
The Lovense Lush is a great way to have fun inside (and outside) the bedroom. From solo play to foreplay to discreet public play, there are a lot of ways to use the bullet vibrator. The vibrations are powerful yet quiet, and if the internal G-spot stimulator doesn’t do it for you, you can always use the Lush as an external clitoral stimulator.
To purchase the wireless, wearable Lovense Lush with a one-year warranty, visit the Lovense website.
The Lovense Lush is a great way to have fun inside (and outside) the bedroom. The vibrations are powerful yet nearly silent, and the bendable Bluetooth antenna makes it one of the longest control range wearable Bluetooth vibrators.
Jennifer Craig has been in a successful long-distance relationship and started SurviveLDR to encourage those who want to pursue love with partners in far land.
Keeping The Intimacy Alive in Your LDR
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