Sex in a long-distance relationship? How does that work, exactly? If you’re new to an LDR you may be wondering how to set each other alight when you’ve never in the same state or even the same country. Perhaps you started off with a hot LDR, but now the fires are fading. How do you keep the spark going, and get all you need physically from the relationship, despite the distance?
It may not feel like it sometimes, but when you’re one half of a long-distance couple you’re actually pretty lucky these days. You’ve got instant communication any time of the day or night – OK, so it’s not exactly face to face, but it is screen to screen – and this technological development is also perfect for connecting you both more intimately.
Hook up to an app-controlled toy and you open up a whole new pleasure zone.
I took delivery of the new Lovense Hush and ran it for a test-drive to see how this app-controlled plug can help you get your buzz, long-distance.
Hush from Lovense is a smooth, sexy, powerful little butt plug designed to stimulate all your anal pleasure spots. So far, not so different. The main selling point of this plug compared to others on the market is Hush gives you pleasure from a distance - if that's how you like to play. It’s a remote-controlled toy, operated from yours or your partner’s cell phone.
Because I’m at a distance from my partner right now, it seemed perfect for some out-of-town experimentation.
Hush is designed for solo play, discreet public play, and long distance couples – it’s a good option for an intense boost when you’re having sex, for sexy foreplay, or for those times when your partner is out of town and you need a solo session.
Since I didn’t want to wait to ship the Hush to my partner, and he’s not the biggest fan of anal play anyway, I tried it out. I have actually been looking for this kind of plug for a while, thinking that something with a decent-sized head and powerful vibe would really work for me. So I was excited at the prospect, to say the least. And how did it feel? Well, hold on….. first the tech bits.
First off, the packaging is beautiful – sleek, minimalistic, stylish. The Hush rests within a velvety inlay, and the whole package includes the butt plug, a USB charging cable, and a user guide. There’s also a guide on the website that gives you more tips of setting up and using the toy.
Hush is compatible with both Android and iPhone. In order to hook up, you download the Lovense Wearables app from the store. Turn on the toy and check it’s working by seeing the flashing light - it’s a little difficult to see whether it is on or not, but it should buzz once to let you know.
Then you follow the instructions on the app to find and connect the toy. It’s really simple – and I’m a self-confessed technophobe.
To connect with a partner you go to the “Long Distance” tab on the app, and tap to add a contact. They get an email from you with the request and once they have accepted they will show up in the “Long Distance” tab.
There’s a messaging section where you can let each other know you’re ready to play, and you can adjust settings for each partner to allow auto-play or control.
Once you’ve set it up, the next time you want to play you don’t have to go through the same process again as it will automatically connect with your phone when Hush is switched on.
So how did it feel? I loved it, overall, and it really did get me going. Hush is not perfect, however, and there are a couple of points where it could have been tweaked a little for the best buzz, but it did give me and my partner many hours of sexy pleasure, fooling around.
The smooth, inviting body-safe silicone feels just right, and the matt rubber finish is stylish and modern. The plug itself is weighty without being hefty. It is just about the right size for me – maybe a little large so be careful and lube up if you are not used to anal play. The rubber is smooth and the neck seems to have the right amount of give. Hush really looks the part, and I certainly wouldn’t feel bad giving this to my partner as a gift. It looks expensive, in short.
The power on/off button is on the base of the toy and it is not immediately obvious. You also have to hold it down for a few seconds to turn it on or turn it off, but this is a good thing as it prevents the toy switching itself off when you're sitting down. But I did find it tricky to turn off – I’m never sure whether it is completely off and once I left it on by mistake and ran down the battery.
The vibrations are definitely strong enough for me. I started off soft, just to warm up, and found the lower-level vibrations a bit too subtle. But full vibe mode is certainly intense.
Using the touchpad is much easier and more intuitive than having to adjust levels and speeds using numbers or graphs - I definitely preferred this app to others in that respect.
You tap or slide the screen to control the vibrations, moving your finger up and down, and it is really responsive – a bit too responsive sometimes, as taking your finger off the app brings the fun to an abrupt end. I found it worked best when you record your own short sequence, and this then plays on and on automatically. You can create as many patterns as you like. Or you can just put it on pure and simple vibrate, when you’re not feeling creative. Great when you want to let it take over.
And speaking of taking over, Hush is ideal for long-distance relationships. After experimenting on my own, I gave control to my partner. So long as you both have an internet connection, it works, no matter if you’re on the other side of the world. He controls the vibrations on his screen, setting up the patterns and deciding how fast, slow, or majorly intense he wants the toy to go. And it also works with the element of surprise - keep it in and your partner can give you a buzz whenever they feel like it.
It seems like Hush is an excellent option when you want to switch between controlling the toy from a long distance or from close range. It worked for me because sometimes you just want to get it going on your own, while at other times you definitely want your partner’s involvement I didn’t experience any dropped connections, and you don’t have to have your phone right up next to you to make it work.
The silicone is also completely waterproof so you can shower with this thing in, or just leave it in with plenty of lube and don’t have to worry about damage.
It is created for wearability above all else, and the makers say you can keep it in for long periods of time as you get your regular day done. Sit, walk, shop, work, attend a silent yoga retreat.... Well, for that last one I'm not so sure. It is pretty quiet, but it’s not silent. You can definitely hear it when it’s on a full vibe and it’s inside you. It’s discreet enough to be worn in a busy public place but I wouldn’t want it on when things were quiet. It’s also not the most comfortable toy I have ever used and the curved antennae press a little too hard into the tailbone but I guess that is something that will be different for everyone.
It took a little while to get the hang of the controls so I would experiment a bit first before you take the plunge with a partner or settle down for a solo session.
The sound-activated vibe was good fun – a bit too much fun! When my partner came back for a visit and we used Hush again when we were both in the same room, he loved making phone calls, chatting to me, coughing…. anything to get it going while I was wearing it.
I had a bit of a sticky problem with the lube. It is not the easiest thing to insert as you need lots of lube on you and the toy. The makers say that you should use water-based lube. Water-based doesn’t really work for me, so after a short while I did feel like I was lacking some lubrication and I had to take it out, reapply, and try again. Not really ideal. Lovense says that the spirals on the neck of the toy keep the lube inside you, but I don’t entirely agree this works.
Lush is another Lovense toy for her – a vibrator that can be controlled from afar. Obviously, if you’re not into anal, Lush would be the natural alternative.
In conclusion, Hush is a great toy for bringing some serious excitement to anal play, particularly in a long-distance relationship where you need to keep things fresh and sexy. I’m not new to wearables, and I make no secret of the fact that these app-controlled toys can be amazing in an LDR. Hush and its Lovense partners are definitely worth trying.
Jennifer Craig has been in a successful long-distance relationship and started SurviveLDR to encourage those who want to pursue love with partners in far land.
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