It was a bright day, I was on my way to a work event, sitting in a taxi. It was a busy day, but I managed to keep in contact with my long-distance boyfriend. We were exchanging texts and were in a middle of a conversation about happiness. I told him my work makes me happy, despite the hustle and bustle. He then replied, “well you make me happy and I love you!”. It caught me by surprise because it was the first time he said I love you to me, although via a text message. I still remember that day clearly, and how my heart felt when I read his text. My next reply was the beginning of our commitment and that moment we realized that this relationship was not any other relationship. After that moment, we had a more serious discussion and started to make plans on how to close the distance. But that’s a story for another day.
You see, I can still remember that day vividly. The day we first exchanged “I love you” with each other, which led us to be more committed to our long-distance relationship. Although we don’t consider that day as our anniversary, we still like to celebrate that day and consider it as another milestone in our long-distance relationship.
Like any normal relationships, celebrating milestones in your long-distance relationship can mean so much to you and your partner. Usually, people tend to only celebrate the bigger milestones in a relationship, such as the first date, the first kiss, the first time you visited each other’s house, the first time you met each other’s parents, or getting engaged. However, I think it is also important to celebrate the smaller milestones in a relationship, especially when you are in a long-distance relationship. I believe celebrating milestones in a long-distance relationship can strengthen the bonds between you and your LDR partner.
There are many smaller milestones that you can celebrate in your long-distance relationship. It can be the first time you hear each other’s voices, the first time you have an intimate session or the first time you talk on a video call. Of course, there are other bigger milestones such as meeting in real life for the first time. I bet nobody can forget the first time they meet their LDR partner for the first time, especially when they have been away for so long. No matter how big or small the milestone is, they can make your long-distance relationship more meaningful.
Take my story for example. I like to remember the day we first said I love you to each other and I consider it as a milestone that helped to take us where we are today. The fact that we were able to say I love you casually during a daily conversation means that we were already in love with each other even without us realizing it! Of course, we celebrate other milestones like any other couples. However, there is another special milestone that I like to celebrate with my LDR partner. It’s the first time we talk on the phone. It’s special because that phone call lasted overnight, and it made us realize that we were so comfortable with each other. We talked about a lot of different things during that phone call, and surprisingly, even though it was our first time talking on the phone to each other, we didn’t feel awkward at all!
For me, celebrating milestones in my long-distance relationship helps me to go through my relationship, especially when the times get tough. I don’t want to lie, being in a long-distance relationship can get really tough sometimes. There are days where I found myself questioning my decision to commit in this long-distance relationship. There are also days where my partner and I argued a lot, which made me really frustrated. However, I like to remember the many milestones that my partner and I have gone through together. When times get tough, I think of the first time we said I love you to each other and it made me smile. When I start to question things, I think of the first time we talked on the phone for the first time. I think of how comfortable I felt and how connected we were during that conversation. In a sea of people, it’s hard to find someone that you really feel a connection to, and when you find one, despite being separated by a distance, it’s best that you hold on to that person. When I think of that milestone, my heart felt warm and it made me regain my strength to continue with my long-distance relationship.
So, that’s my story. What about you? what are the milestones that you like to celebrate with your LDR partner? No matter how big or small, a celebration is always a good idea as it can spice up your long-distance relationship. Let me hear your stories in the comment box below! If you recently just got engaged to your long distance partner, find out some tips on what to do next!