The time has finally come. You’re finally jumping on the plane to see your loved one. One of the greatest things about being in a long-distance relationship is the anticipation of making the trip to see your significant other. Truth be told, sometimes these trips don’t happen for months, or even years, but counting down the days until you see your special someone is one of the greatest motivation to get through your eight-hour work shifts.
These trips will be forever embedded in your heart. Anyone who hasn’t been in a long-distance relationship will have trouble relating. They will not understand how easy it is to pack your bags and how hard it can be to say goodbye. Time together is always so precious, so every trip should be memorable.
Here are some tips for making the most out of your visits.
If we had the ability to grow money on trees, I’m sure any of us would. Both you and your significant other have separate lives and bills to pay, so it wouldn’t be fair for one person to take care of all of the expenses. One of the things that works for me is if one of us covers the costs of accommodation, then the other covers the costs of food or gas (depending on what we’ve planned throughout the trip). Balancing the expenses creates an equal dynamic in the relationship and lessens the stress for both parties.
Plan your trips months in advance, and, if possible, try to schedule your work life around it. Understanding that every company isn’t the same. If there will be days that your partner will have to drop into work during your trip, be opened-minded about it. You’re lucky enough to be able to take a week off work with pay, whereas your partner might not have that ability but will take any chance to be with you. There are times where I make the trip to see my boyfriend and he isn’t able to take more than a day or two off work. I can easily throw a fit, but instead, I appreciate the time he can make for me and jump with excitement when I hear him come through the door after a long day at work. Having said that …
If unforeseen circumstances forbid you to be able to see your partner for a few hours during the day, have a backup option. Look up places around the area you would love to check out. Go to a mall and buy yourself something nice or bring home some souvenirs for your friends and family. Creating your own adventure in a city you’ve never been in is something everyone should do at least once in her life. If you’re like me, I usually laze around in the sun all day at the beach with a good book, trying to get a tan.
Be a tourist. Look up some places that take your interest and make a list. Even ask your friends and family member who have visited your significant other’s city before for any recommendations to check out. There’s always something to do and things to try. I personally love trying out new food and will always visit different food stops that are appealing to my eyes and my stomach. My boyfriend, on the other hand, isn’t too much of a foodie (but trust me, he’ll become one in no time). Local museums are also something to look into. Learning about each other’s hometown history can be fun and exciting to try out together as a date. Trying out different activities together that may not be possible back home is another idea. When my boyfriend visited me in Canada, I took him out snowboarding for his first time. Granted, there were times where we both wiped out on the fresh snow, but it’s something fun we’ll always remember doing together.
Capture every moment, every day. Imagine looking back at these moments and remembering the good times you two had 10 to 20 years down the road. Don’t be shy to overload your phone and camera with photos and videos of your trip. I know I do. I carry at least two extra memory cards for my DSLR and try to clear out my phone’s memory to make room to take photos and videos when grabbing my DSLR isn’t an option. I also bring my MacBook with me because it has a program called Photo Booth where it create filters for your webcam that make taking silly photos fun.
And most of all …
Unless, of course, you’re capturing moments! We’re now in the age of technology where everyone’s eyes are glued to their phone screens. Don’t be a victim of this when you’re on your trip spending time with your significant other. Your text messages can wait. Your emails can be replied to later. Social media doesn’t need your undivided attention. I know it can be tough, but try practicing it before you leave for your trip. Put your phone aside when you’re out with your friends, and see the difference it makes. Shutting off the world and focusing on what matters to you the most in the present time creates the bond of being together both physically and emotionally much stronger. So when it’s time to finally shed the tears of saying goodbye, you’ll know your love can endure being months apart until you can finally be in each other’s arms again.
Glenda is a foodie who enjoys anime and video games. She studied criminology and writes about her long-distance relationship on her website, confessionsofascorpio.com.
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