This week, I shared how to make a long-distance relationship last by resolving conflict as it arises on Jo, My Gosh! I could give you a million pieces of advice on how to survive a long-distance relationship. But one of the biggest things that helped me through my LDR was making sure we resolved conflicts as soon as they arose.
Which is hard to do when you’re thousands of miles apart (I lived in the U.S., and he lived in the Netherlands). However, I found that most of our arguments were caused by fear: fear that they’ll meet someone new, fear that they’ll forget about us, fear that it’s not going to work and we really don’t have a future together.
To avoid reaching the point where it feels like you’re fighting every day, it’s imperative that you address conflict as soon as it arises. What my now-husband (!) and I found was that when we did this, the disagreements actually brought us closer together as a couple.
But if you see conflicts as bad or as a competition, then they will most likely have a negative effect on your relationship. Instead, try to see conflicts as opportunities to improve your relation. Then your relationship will become stronger, and eventually, there will be less and less to fight about.
If you want to know how to make a long-distance relationship last, you have to know how to fight fair in order to resolve conflicts. To read my advice on how to resolve conflicts quickly so your long-distance relationship can stand the test of time, head on over to Jo, My Gosh!
Jennifer Craig has been in a successful long-distance relationship and started SurviveLDR to encourage those who want to pursue love with partners in far land.
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